Okay, let's do this. My contractions started at about 1:30 in the afternoon on Sunday, the 25th. They were sharp, but very tolerable. I was able to watch an episode of a new show I had discovered on Netflix before becoming too uncomfortable. About 30 minutes after they started I decided I should probably time them. They were about 3 minutes apart lasting 45 seconds straight out of the gate. I laid in bed for about an hour before deciding to get up and take a shower to see of the contractions would slow or continue. They persisted, still every 3 minutes. My husband decided we should call the on call physician, who told us to go ahead and head to labor and delivery to be on the safe side.
We had our bags packed for weeks. We were prepared for this inevitable trek to the hospital, roughly an hours drive from our home. I got dressed after my shower and we headed down to the car. I have to admit, the contractions in the car were not near as bad as I anticipated they would be. (Everything I had read warned about how bad laboring in a vehicle was.) We even stopped at burger king on the way to pick up a last minute snack. The ladies at the drive through were thoroughly freaked out when they found out I was in active labor. We got our food and hit the road. Little did we know it would be the last time we would take that drive as just a couple.
I want to begin this part by saying that my husband is amazing. Without him, I wouldn't have been near as capable of coping as I was. On the seemingly short drive (time skips when you're focusing on contractions every few minutes) he continued to note the spacing of contractions, chatted with me to keep my mind at ease, and even played some classical music to really mellow the atmosphere. (He knows I love a good orchestral piece.)
We finally arrived at the hospital where, after a brief bit of paperwork, we were whisked away to triage. I was in that bed for all of 2 minutes. The triage nurse stated that when she sees a lady come in breathing through her contractions, she likes to go ahead and check their dilation before hooking them to the monitors, to be safe. So, I got the first of several cervical checks to find that I was dilated to 6-7 cm. My husband and I looked at each other and laughed. We couldn't believe I was actually in active labor. They immediately got me back up and walked me to my room. Along the way, they asked me if I would be getting an epidural. I replied that I would not, if at all possible. So, they stuck me in the "natural" room with the jet tub.
I had brought my own birthing ball, and my husband set about blowing it up and informing the family we were admitted. I sat in the bed on the monitors for a bit, while the nurse tried, and failed, to put in my saline lock twice. Poor girl blew veins in both arms. She gave up and called in another nurse for assistance. Success! I cannot say enough just how much I appreciate my Doctor for agreeing to a saline lock, instead of full IV fluids, and intermittent monitoring, instead of sticking me in bed. I was able to labor walking around, sat in the tub (for all of 30 minutes), and bounce on my birth ball.
Some family came by for a visit after a while, and my best friend sat with us in the room watching Hocus pocus as I continued to labor. Hours passed and cervical checks revealed no change. I began to stall out. My doctor called to check on our progress and offered to break my waters. I declined, since I was unsure how long my labor would be at that point. We finally laid down to try to rest a bit. My contractions had slowed significantly, though they were still as sharp. I slept off and on between them. Between the contractions and nurses checking me, I got very little sleep. It was enough to help me power through what was to come, though.
My doctor came in a little before 8 and after some discussion, we decided to try to break my waters to see if it would jump-start my labor again. By 8 my membranes were ruptured and about 15 minutes later I had my first contraction. They started out again as if they had never slowed at all. My dad came in and sat with me as my husband took a brief break to snack and refresh himself. When he came back, my labor began picking up dramatically. He helped me out of bed and back onto the ball. I was put back on the monitors for a bit as I swayed back and forth, bouncing slightly. I was handling well, so I knew I couldn't yet in the thick of it.
My husband left the room once more, to get me a cup of water. In that brief moment he was gone, I was hit with the most intense contraction I had had yet. I panicked. It was painful and I was alone. It caught me completely off guard and I coped with it very poorly. My husband came back as it was waning. He could see this one had been more intense. I looked at him, still panicked, and asked him not to leave again. He helped me get through the next ones by applying counter pressure to my lower back.
All too soon, the contractions began stacking up on top of one another. I couldn't sit on the ball anymore and I couldn't find any comfortable positions, so I ended up sitting on the edge of the bed between contractions and standing grasping my husband's shoulders and rocking my hips side to side. He was sitting in front of me on a small stool and asked if he should stand with me. I asked him to sit, as it felt better to lean over him slightly to rock. I buried my face in his shoulder with every wave of pain. Then, I would sit back on the bed for a few seconds rest before bounding right back up for another contraction. Some of them would peak twice and I'd get no rest. This was the hardest part, I think.
Somewhere in this cycle of sitting and standing/rocking, I managed to get in bed for what would be my last official cervical check. The nurse said I was an 8, maybe a 9. I got back up for more contractions. About 5 minutes later, at least that's what it felt like - time being a bit fuzzy and all, I started not being able to sit down during the "breaks". I began getting very grunty and I realized my body was beginning to bear down on its own.
I told my nurse, who had remained in the room to prep for the delivery, that I felt pushy and didn't know if I could keep from doing it. She said if I could breathe through them, she'd check me again. I couldn't even imagine getting back in the bed for that, so she said she'd attempt to see if I was complete while I stood. She never announced what she felt when she checked, but I'm assuming it was the baby's head and not my cervix, because she called for my doctor to go ahead and come and for the other nurse to assist in delivery.
I began bearing down with every contraction at this point. There was no way I could stop doing it, and I just tried to go with it. My doctor arrived and suited up, happily saying something about it taking way less time than she anticipated for me to get to this point. All I could do between contractions now was breathe, still clutching my amazing saint of a husband, who was like a rock for me. He never moved away, never complained as I began rocking forward and digging my knees into his for leverage. It all felt so out of control, yet my body was just doing what it needed. My mind was miles away, but he somehow brought me back just when I thought I had lost all focus. I remember, vaguely, saying I couldn't do it. (And cursing a bit.) He kept me going, telling me that I was doing it. I didn't always hear what he was saying, but his voice was what pulled me back in every time. Later, he would tell me he felt so great that I used him for literal support. That he wasn't sure how he'd be useful, but he was so needed. I wouldn't have had near the stamina or drive to push on without his encouraging voice and him looking me in the eyes, as he physically supported me so I could squat with pushes.
There was a nameless, faceless nurse behind me. Not the one who had been with me. She was telling me go rock back deeper and push through various sensations. I don't know who she was, but she was a God send. She applied a warm compress to my perineum and told me to keep surging forward through the pressure and pain. She had asked me before if I wanted to sit on the birth stool, and at the time I was intimidated by all the pressure and declined. Sitting sounded horrible. However, at this point, my legs were shaking terribly and I came to the logical conclusion that to keep going I needed to get off my legs. I asked for the stool. She immediately put it under me and after the next contraction, my husband lowered me back onto it. I felt so much better for that moment. I had only a moment's rest, in which I rather hastily threw off all my gowns exclaiming how suffocating they were. With the next contraction, I pushed again. I couldn't stop pushing. She told me to push through the stinging, I did. I pushed 3 times during that contraction. I felt a pressure and intensity that is indescribable. Then, I heard my doctor tell my husband, who was still holding my hand from somewhere in front of me, that the head was out. I pushed once more and I felt her body slide out. She was born at 10:48 am. It was as if I had instant relief. There was still pain, to be sure, I had torn. I knew it. But, my little love was now being handed to me, all covered in vernix and fluid. She was the most beautiful thing I'd ever seen. I just kept looking back and forth between her face and my husband's, completely in shock about what had just happened. He was in tears, but grinning ear to ear. All he could manage to say was, "you did it."
The doctor asked him to cut the cord once it had stopped pulsing. I remember it being a beautiful spiraled thing. Our little one was now a separate human being. She never cried, just stared at me. A nurse took her momentarily and the other nurse, and my husband, helped me into the bed to deliver the placenta. The doctor asked if I wanted to see it, I said I did, so she gave us the "tour" of our little one's home for the last 9 months. Then, she assessed the damage.
All in all, I got away with a 2nd degree tear, requiring several stitches, but I had a gorgeous baby to look at. It evens out. My husband and I sat in complete amazement, looking down at our tiny creation. After a while, my husband got antsy to do that new father rite of passage and burst in to the waiting room to announce the birth. He came back a bit later, bringing with him the news of everyone's reactions. We sat as a new family for some time while the doctor finished her work and after congratulations and many thanks for attending, excused herself back to her usual clinic day. The nurse observed patiently from the corner and never rushed our time together, only offering that she would help me clean up and get baby worked up and weighed when I was ready. After about an hour and a half, maybe, I decided to let her have the baby. My husband went to the baby's side and relayed everything that was going on, even though I could see, since everything was taking place just feet away. Our darling daughter cried out for the first time, and we both burst into tears with her. They weighed her at 6lbs, 10oz and she was 19in long.
We let our family come in to see her for a bit, everyone taking a cuddle before passing her back. I am forever grateful for their patience and understanding after sitting out in that uncomfortable waiting room all night. I received nothing but love and support from all, and I can't thank them enough for it.
I got the birth I had wanted. I had one intervention, relatively minor in the scheme of things, my membranes had to be ruptured artificially. I'm perfectly fine with it. I managed an entire 21 hours, start to finish, with no epidural and no pharmaceutical pain relief. (My husband still tells everyone who will listen all about it. I think he's prouder of this accomplishment than even I am.) I vaguely remember chatting between the doctor and nurses about how awesome it was to watch my husband and I work together during labor. My doctor called us her power couple. There may have even been a joke thrown in about how if every husband were as involved and supportive as mine, doulas would be out of a job. He was my doula. I needed him, more than anything else. He was there for everything else, and was my everything through labor and delivery. Now, we are a happy family of three and a cat and are enjoying every second with each other and our little love.
(Disclaimer: not knocking doulas, as we had seriously considered hiring one, but I felt like I just wanted him there. I couldn't justify spending the money to have an almost stranger in the room, when I would've been the most comfortable with just my husband. My doctor was even on board with hiring a doula, saying she felt it made her job easier. I'm glad I chose the path I did. Doulas do great work, and are worth every penny for those who need their support. I am just blessed to have the awesome husband that I do.)
We had our bags packed for weeks. We were prepared for this inevitable trek to the hospital, roughly an hours drive from our home. I got dressed after my shower and we headed down to the car. I have to admit, the contractions in the car were not near as bad as I anticipated they would be. (Everything I had read warned about how bad laboring in a vehicle was.) We even stopped at burger king on the way to pick up a last minute snack. The ladies at the drive through were thoroughly freaked out when they found out I was in active labor. We got our food and hit the road. Little did we know it would be the last time we would take that drive as just a couple.
I want to begin this part by saying that my husband is amazing. Without him, I wouldn't have been near as capable of coping as I was. On the seemingly short drive (time skips when you're focusing on contractions every few minutes) he continued to note the spacing of contractions, chatted with me to keep my mind at ease, and even played some classical music to really mellow the atmosphere. (He knows I love a good orchestral piece.)
We finally arrived at the hospital where, after a brief bit of paperwork, we were whisked away to triage. I was in that bed for all of 2 minutes. The triage nurse stated that when she sees a lady come in breathing through her contractions, she likes to go ahead and check their dilation before hooking them to the monitors, to be safe. So, I got the first of several cervical checks to find that I was dilated to 6-7 cm. My husband and I looked at each other and laughed. We couldn't believe I was actually in active labor. They immediately got me back up and walked me to my room. Along the way, they asked me if I would be getting an epidural. I replied that I would not, if at all possible. So, they stuck me in the "natural" room with the jet tub.
I had brought my own birthing ball, and my husband set about blowing it up and informing the family we were admitted. I sat in the bed on the monitors for a bit, while the nurse tried, and failed, to put in my saline lock twice. Poor girl blew veins in both arms. She gave up and called in another nurse for assistance. Success! I cannot say enough just how much I appreciate my Doctor for agreeing to a saline lock, instead of full IV fluids, and intermittent monitoring, instead of sticking me in bed. I was able to labor walking around, sat in the tub (for all of 30 minutes), and bounce on my birth ball.
Some family came by for a visit after a while, and my best friend sat with us in the room watching Hocus pocus as I continued to labor. Hours passed and cervical checks revealed no change. I began to stall out. My doctor called to check on our progress and offered to break my waters. I declined, since I was unsure how long my labor would be at that point. We finally laid down to try to rest a bit. My contractions had slowed significantly, though they were still as sharp. I slept off and on between them. Between the contractions and nurses checking me, I got very little sleep. It was enough to help me power through what was to come, though.
My doctor came in a little before 8 and after some discussion, we decided to try to break my waters to see if it would jump-start my labor again. By 8 my membranes were ruptured and about 15 minutes later I had my first contraction. They started out again as if they had never slowed at all. My dad came in and sat with me as my husband took a brief break to snack and refresh himself. When he came back, my labor began picking up dramatically. He helped me out of bed and back onto the ball. I was put back on the monitors for a bit as I swayed back and forth, bouncing slightly. I was handling well, so I knew I couldn't yet in the thick of it.
My husband left the room once more, to get me a cup of water. In that brief moment he was gone, I was hit with the most intense contraction I had had yet. I panicked. It was painful and I was alone. It caught me completely off guard and I coped with it very poorly. My husband came back as it was waning. He could see this one had been more intense. I looked at him, still panicked, and asked him not to leave again. He helped me get through the next ones by applying counter pressure to my lower back.
All too soon, the contractions began stacking up on top of one another. I couldn't sit on the ball anymore and I couldn't find any comfortable positions, so I ended up sitting on the edge of the bed between contractions and standing grasping my husband's shoulders and rocking my hips side to side. He was sitting in front of me on a small stool and asked if he should stand with me. I asked him to sit, as it felt better to lean over him slightly to rock. I buried my face in his shoulder with every wave of pain. Then, I would sit back on the bed for a few seconds rest before bounding right back up for another contraction. Some of them would peak twice and I'd get no rest. This was the hardest part, I think.
Somewhere in this cycle of sitting and standing/rocking, I managed to get in bed for what would be my last official cervical check. The nurse said I was an 8, maybe a 9. I got back up for more contractions. About 5 minutes later, at least that's what it felt like - time being a bit fuzzy and all, I started not being able to sit down during the "breaks". I began getting very grunty and I realized my body was beginning to bear down on its own.
I told my nurse, who had remained in the room to prep for the delivery, that I felt pushy and didn't know if I could keep from doing it. She said if I could breathe through them, she'd check me again. I couldn't even imagine getting back in the bed for that, so she said she'd attempt to see if I was complete while I stood. She never announced what she felt when she checked, but I'm assuming it was the baby's head and not my cervix, because she called for my doctor to go ahead and come and for the other nurse to assist in delivery.
I began bearing down with every contraction at this point. There was no way I could stop doing it, and I just tried to go with it. My doctor arrived and suited up, happily saying something about it taking way less time than she anticipated for me to get to this point. All I could do between contractions now was breathe, still clutching my amazing saint of a husband, who was like a rock for me. He never moved away, never complained as I began rocking forward and digging my knees into his for leverage. It all felt so out of control, yet my body was just doing what it needed. My mind was miles away, but he somehow brought me back just when I thought I had lost all focus. I remember, vaguely, saying I couldn't do it. (And cursing a bit.) He kept me going, telling me that I was doing it. I didn't always hear what he was saying, but his voice was what pulled me back in every time. Later, he would tell me he felt so great that I used him for literal support. That he wasn't sure how he'd be useful, but he was so needed. I wouldn't have had near the stamina or drive to push on without his encouraging voice and him looking me in the eyes, as he physically supported me so I could squat with pushes.
There was a nameless, faceless nurse behind me. Not the one who had been with me. She was telling me go rock back deeper and push through various sensations. I don't know who she was, but she was a God send. She applied a warm compress to my perineum and told me to keep surging forward through the pressure and pain. She had asked me before if I wanted to sit on the birth stool, and at the time I was intimidated by all the pressure and declined. Sitting sounded horrible. However, at this point, my legs were shaking terribly and I came to the logical conclusion that to keep going I needed to get off my legs. I asked for the stool. She immediately put it under me and after the next contraction, my husband lowered me back onto it. I felt so much better for that moment. I had only a moment's rest, in which I rather hastily threw off all my gowns exclaiming how suffocating they were. With the next contraction, I pushed again. I couldn't stop pushing. She told me to push through the stinging, I did. I pushed 3 times during that contraction. I felt a pressure and intensity that is indescribable. Then, I heard my doctor tell my husband, who was still holding my hand from somewhere in front of me, that the head was out. I pushed once more and I felt her body slide out. She was born at 10:48 am. It was as if I had instant relief. There was still pain, to be sure, I had torn. I knew it. But, my little love was now being handed to me, all covered in vernix and fluid. She was the most beautiful thing I'd ever seen. I just kept looking back and forth between her face and my husband's, completely in shock about what had just happened. He was in tears, but grinning ear to ear. All he could manage to say was, "you did it."
The doctor asked him to cut the cord once it had stopped pulsing. I remember it being a beautiful spiraled thing. Our little one was now a separate human being. She never cried, just stared at me. A nurse took her momentarily and the other nurse, and my husband, helped me into the bed to deliver the placenta. The doctor asked if I wanted to see it, I said I did, so she gave us the "tour" of our little one's home for the last 9 months. Then, she assessed the damage.
All in all, I got away with a 2nd degree tear, requiring several stitches, but I had a gorgeous baby to look at. It evens out. My husband and I sat in complete amazement, looking down at our tiny creation. After a while, my husband got antsy to do that new father rite of passage and burst in to the waiting room to announce the birth. He came back a bit later, bringing with him the news of everyone's reactions. We sat as a new family for some time while the doctor finished her work and after congratulations and many thanks for attending, excused herself back to her usual clinic day. The nurse observed patiently from the corner and never rushed our time together, only offering that she would help me clean up and get baby worked up and weighed when I was ready. After about an hour and a half, maybe, I decided to let her have the baby. My husband went to the baby's side and relayed everything that was going on, even though I could see, since everything was taking place just feet away. Our darling daughter cried out for the first time, and we both burst into tears with her. They weighed her at 6lbs, 10oz and she was 19in long.
We let our family come in to see her for a bit, everyone taking a cuddle before passing her back. I am forever grateful for their patience and understanding after sitting out in that uncomfortable waiting room all night. I received nothing but love and support from all, and I can't thank them enough for it.
I got the birth I had wanted. I had one intervention, relatively minor in the scheme of things, my membranes had to be ruptured artificially. I'm perfectly fine with it. I managed an entire 21 hours, start to finish, with no epidural and no pharmaceutical pain relief. (My husband still tells everyone who will listen all about it. I think he's prouder of this accomplishment than even I am.) I vaguely remember chatting between the doctor and nurses about how awesome it was to watch my husband and I work together during labor. My doctor called us her power couple. There may have even been a joke thrown in about how if every husband were as involved and supportive as mine, doulas would be out of a job. He was my doula. I needed him, more than anything else. He was there for everything else, and was my everything through labor and delivery. Now, we are a happy family of three and a cat and are enjoying every second with each other and our little love.
(Disclaimer: not knocking doulas, as we had seriously considered hiring one, but I felt like I just wanted him there. I couldn't justify spending the money to have an almost stranger in the room, when I would've been the most comfortable with just my husband. My doctor was even on board with hiring a doula, saying she felt it made her job easier. I'm glad I chose the path I did. Doulas do great work, and are worth every penny for those who need their support. I am just blessed to have the awesome husband that I do.)






















